If charity
begins at home, then so does everything else- bias, stereotyping.
I am not
advocating women rights here. Even though this might turn out be another
feminist article but that is not exactly what I mean to put across. Because I
feel I’m not qualified to do so.
For the 19 years
that I have lived, I have seen my mother follow the same routine like a ritual.
From 5 in the morning to 10 in the night, she took care of our food, our sleep,
our homework, our studies, us. One might frown and say that hey look, my mother
does the same. I agree. All mothers follow more or less the same routine with
the same objective of taking care of the family. But what happens when they
decide to change their lifestyles and live for themselves?
Picture this: a
woman, who has worked for more than a decade, is suddenly forced to leave her
job one day, moves to a different city where she has no social life and her
only companion is the idiot box. How does her family treat her now? Now that
she is not working, she has nothing to do all day. The children come home and
pester her as to why doesn’t she make tasty lunch. “Mom, you’re free all day!”
The husband comes home to find faults in random things. “What have you been doing all day?!” Well, the
tiffins were ready, the water for bathing was warm enough, the lunch was served
hot, there were snacks for the evening and dinner would’ve been ready in
sometime. So, what was she doing all
day? Nothing, yet everything.
Why is it that
we can’t tolerate a woman sitting in front of the television, enjoying herself,
without worrying about what chore she has to do next? Does she always have to
be doing something to show that she
does something? If she has a maid cooking for her, everyone will grant her even
more free and then if she assigns any work to any other member of the family,
there is wave of reaction. “You are not doing anything! Why don’t you do this
yourself?” If she’s going to shop for herself, then the family has an
objection. “Why herself? She should buy me something first!” If she’s looking
for clothes for herself and needs assistance, everyone shakes their heads and
moves on but if she does the same, then she’s selfish. In any case, there’s no
respite for her because she is a woman. One tiny mistake in taking care of
something trivial is a cause for havoc in the house. I have seen this scenario
and unfortunately, have been a part of it. All of us, who study, advocate and
fight for feminism, who live in 21st Century boasting in social gatherings of how our women have become independent, somewhere or the other are a part of what we are fighting
against.
We can have a 2nd
Wave of Feminism and maybe a 20th Wave many years down the line,
what’s deep rooted cannot go out with education, awareness, protests- nothing.
It’s hereditary, genetic, and even epidemic. While real diseases maybe cured,
this one can never be.
Nice one again ... u do write well .. see i read the 3rd one on the go ...
ReplyDeletebut i happen to disagree with your point that it cant be changed ... it will ... and it already is .. the Gen Next has realized this .. and am sure as u see some more years in your life .. some more more younger women .. you will realize that .. the male dominated society is now getting more and more unbiased. ..
as Steve Jobs would say ..
Stay Happy Stay Positive... ;-)